Greetings followers, Coffee here and the Chronicles of Milk and Coffee continues. Today i will be talking about expectations in relationships. This is a tricky one,as your state of mind going into a relationship determines how it all goes down. Going into my relationship i lacked a lot of confidence and experience. Luckily for me, i’m a people person. I’m calm and understanding and i really did find a genuine partner to make things easier for me. This week will be six months of togetherness with her and I’ve grown so much.
Going into the relationship i expected trust, good communication, integrity, and affection. I could tell i was dealing with a mature woman right away as i started to notice these things early on. I’m happy i kept my expectations down to earth and realistic. High expectations can cause you to overthink and that will lead to problems. For example a guy can enter a relationship expecting the girl to always cook and do chores for him. On the other hand a girl might expect a guy to buy her gifts, bring her out often and pay the bills. In my opinion relationships require equality. A woman’s effort must match a man’s in some way vice versa. It is important to understand that humans are imperfect and you should expect good and bad from them. That’s where communication comes in. We work at the same place and that’s where we met. This allowed us to see each other more and learn about each other for things to progress. If we met at a bar and worked different jobs, our bond might have been different.
It’s just amazing in those six months i never made her cuss out, shout or cry. That sure is a healthy start. There is good compatibility and our feelings reciprocate. Recently i asked myself was i happy with my life before i met her? The truth is i don’t really know but i know i was comfortable for sure. I was just your average introvert waiting for a chance. Happiness is something we always want to find in every friendship and relationship we enter. We must always remember to make ourselves happy first and share that joy with others. If our partner is our source of happiness then things are likely to fall apart. I’ll be honest my relationship produces much of my current happiness but your happiness must come from within first. That is ultimately your biggest job in life.
Written by: Coffee